Monday, September 24, 2012

Ricky said ''Nobody wants to be lonely''

Nobody wants to be lonely.. Nobody wants to cry..

Ricky Martin and Christina were screaming in the radio. Is that really true?? Nobody wants to be lonely?
yeah that is true. But sometimes there can be some who likes to be alone. It is not loneliness but enjoying the moment. 
Everyone, actually not everyone but most of people I know tell that they want someone to care about them, someone to talk, someone spend time with. I know the feeling. Because sometimes in my past I have felt the same way. but can we really find someone like that?? I don't think so. 
We can't simply ask from someone to care for us, can we? We can't ask them to be with us. But there are things that we can do..

Follow the mirror rule.. 
Now what is the mirror rule?? It is simple.. Mirror will never smile with you unless you smile with it first. So smile with the mirror and mirror will smile back.
If you need someone to care about you then start caring about others. If you want someone to spend time with then start spending time with others. You can't find one unless you are going to be with a hundred. Yes.. First you have to be with hundred to find a one to spend time. And then to find the "Right One" you have to spend time with thousands of people. That is the way it is. No-one will come to you until you are going towards them. If you want somebody in your life then you have to take a chance with the world.
Expose to the world. Stop merely existing and start living your life. 

Talk to yourself.
This is what I do most of times. I talk to myself. [yeah I do.. any problem? ;)] I know it sounds crazy. but trust me it helps to understand your inner side. It helps to understand what you really want in your life. Or you can talk to imaginary friends. I have lot of imaginary friends. 

This is one of the best thing to do. Read books. If there are books then I can spend years without talking to anyone. :)
In these days also I rarely talk to anyone or log in to fb/blog because I bought books from book fair recently. Time is so interesting and I don't think anyone can be alone when all the characters in a book comes to live. 

But the most important thing is no-one can find the one for you. you have to find that one or the way to get rid from loneliness. 

P.S :- Talk to yourself only when you are alone, otherwise you will get shifted to a mental hospital.
Listen to the song as well.. 

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Wednesday, September 19, 2012

බ්ලොග් අවකාශයේ සොඳුරු නවාතැන් පෙළක්

අපිට මේ බ්ලොග් ඇතුලේ වැඩිපුර ඇස නොගැටෙන නමුත් ඉතා අපූරු බ්ලොග් පිටු කිහිපයක් ගැන ලියන්න හිතුවා. අපි කවුරුත් කැමති තමන්ගේ නිර්මාණ වලට අන් අයගේ අදහස් පල වෙනවා නම්. ඒ නිසාමයි මෙහෙම ලිපියක් ලියන්න හිතුවේ.

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දසුනි අක්කාගේ බ්ලොග් පිටුව නම් ගොඩාක් පරණයි. දැන් අවුරුදු දෙකකුත් ඉවරද කොහෙද..ඒත් තාමත් බ්ලොග් බලන බොහෝ දෙනෙක්ගේ ඇස ගැටිලා නැ. ඒත් නිර්මාණ අති විශිෂ්ටයි.. බලන්නම ඕනේ බ්ලොග් එකක්.

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පලි: මේ පොස්ටුව දැම්මේ කාගේවත් හොඳ අහන්න නම් නෙවේ. අපි හැමෝම කැමති අපි ලියන දේවල් අනිත අය කියවනවා නම්. ඒ වාගේ මේ බ්ලොග් පිටු කියවන්න වටින ඉතා අපූරු නිර්මාණ රැගත් බ්ලොග් පිටු. අපි වගේම එයලත් සතුටු හිතෙනවා කොමෙන්ටුවක් දැක්කාම. ජය වේවා. හුදෙක් සහයෝගය පල කිරීම සඳහාම ලිවූ ලිපියකි. මේ බ්ලොග් වල අයිතිකරුවන් මා කිසිම අයුරකින් නොහඳුනන බවත් කිව යුතුමයි. [නැත්නම් කියයි දන්න අයට publicity දෙනවා කියලා.. හික්ස්..] ජය වේවා..

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Monday, September 17, 2012

One Day

Paris Montmarte by Leonid Afremov

One Day
in future
You will be walking
on those streets
where we used to
walk together...
you will remember
I was there
with you
by your side
and you wasn't
you will hear
my voice
cracking silly jokes
saying lame things....
It will bring
a small smile
to your lips..
you will turn
your head
to your side to see
me walking
next to you...
I won't be there
on that
One Day
in future....

"Instead of crying when I'm gone, make me smile while I'm still here"

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Saturday, September 15, 2012

Somebody that I used to know

You and I had something. We shared something. But why are you acting like it was nothing? Like nothing happened? You are treating me like a stranger.. Like we have never met before..

I still remember the first day I saw you.. Light pink dress with white roses on it.. pressing your books to your chest as somebody is going to stole it... big brown eyes filled with fear and tears.. yeah.. you were about to cry..
"Hi.. I'm Jimmy, new to the school?"
I couldn't resist you.. so I introduced myself. If I knew that beginning going to lead to a sad ending I would never talk to you. I would have walked to the opposite direction ignoring the fact that how hard it is to walk away from you. But our beginning never know our ends.

We became friends.. then close friends.. then lovers.. now???

now what are we??

We have became strangers.. completely strangers.. why??? Do you know why??
because I don't know..
I still don't know where we went wrong.. You said we still can be friends.. but can we??
Can we be friends again?

Somebody That I Used To Know lyrics

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end
Always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad that it was over

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened
And that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough
You didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I'd done
And I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know...

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened
And that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough
You didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

I used to know
That I used to know


P.S I listened to this song over and over again because of two reasons actually. First one is this was performed by Matt Bomer in "Glee Season 3 episode 15" with Darren Criss [Bliane Anderson] and I'm a huge fan of Mr. Matt freaking perfect Bomer... :-D hehe.. second is those lyrics are really nice. Just tried to give a story to those lyrics.. I don't know whether it is success but I really love this song. Enjoy it.

P.P.S hey just for the record Matt Bomer [Cooper Anderson] and Darres Criss [Blaine Anderson] are singing this song not as a couple but as brothers.  :-) They have been bit apart from each other but at the end of the episode they sort of find they love each other. 

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Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Do you interfere in children's life more than necessary??

I wanted to talk about this for a long time, but didn't know how. Mainly because I'm not a parent yet so I may not understand the whole parent - child bond thing. But I have 22 years with my parents and I think I have a little idea how parents should deal with their children. Do you interfere in your child's life more than necessary?? Then I hope this post would give you something to think. Yeah maybe you will call this a bluff of a young girl who has no idea how to raise a kid. Yes! I agree. I have never experienced how does it feels to be a parent, raise a child. But mainly what I learned from my own home is though parents give birth to a child he or she means a separate individual and they have their own life. Now don't start thinking that I'm talking about giving unlimited freedom to children. No this is not about that. All I want to say is what will happen if you interfere into your child's life more than it necessarily. What will be the out put. I can be wrong. But I have seen enough examples to say at least 9 out 10 cases what i'm going say would be the result. 

Here are some questions.. I don't need an answer.. but answer to yourself. 
[This is specially about teenagers and they who passed their teenage. I know it is sort funny if you are controlling your child's life even when he/she is above 19. But it happens. so here we go.]

1. Do you love your child??
2. Do you want to see him /her happy??
3. Do you think "you know the best" for him/ her?
4. Does your child have privacy in his/ her life?
5. Do you respect to his/ her opinion?
6. Does your child have the free will under your roofs?? 
7. Are you making a fuss about him/her having friends with the opposite sex?
8. Do you read your child's diary??
9. Do you think they should fulfill your dream just because you gave birth to them?
10.Are you a friend to your child?

Think... and answer yourself. You know what are the answers should be... 1. YES /2. YES /3. NO /4. YES /5. YES /6. YES /7. NO /8. NO /9. NO /10. YES

if those were your answers then you can stop reading sir / madam, this is not for you. I'm so happy about your children. They have got perfect parents. :)

But what if those weren't your answers.. Then you might wanna continue reading. :) 

Obviously any parent would say YES to the first two questions, because everyone loves their child and want them to be happy except for very few exceptional parents who are not really worthy to be called as parents. 
But thinking about the rest.. 

Starting from the question NO.3 If you think you know the best for him/her.. Then you are wrong. Because people are different. He/She can be your child, made of your genes, but still he/she is different from you. Just like your five fingers are different from each other though they belong to the same hand. You may not know the best for him/her. There are some who have the major talent for aesthetic. There are some who are born smart in books. Some have the skill in sports and some are good with machines. You know the best thing in the world. Of course any parent would say going for higher education and doing a white collar job is the best thing in the world. YES! you are right. But that maybe not the best for your child. Maybe he more likes to spend his/her time with his/her guitar/violin/ Piano/dancing class etc. Maybe he/she wants to spend his/her time with a brush in a hand looking at an incomplete Art. Maybe he likes spends his time in a lab. Only they know what is best for them. All you could do is make sure they are making the right decision by showing their options. Show them the best options they can have, [make sure you pick everything he/she interested in when you are showing the best options] and ask them what they think they wanna do? what they think they are good at..? 

Question NO.4, if you say NO this, that would be the biggest mistake you do in your life. Your child needs privacy in his/her life because it helps to build his/her personality. Remember a broken personality would not be getting much credit in the society. No matter how educated they are they would not survive in the society. How lack of privacy destroys someone's personality? Think about it. If she/he can't make a call to a friend without giving full details to you about it? If she/he can't go hang around with friends? [for a girl I agree parents should ask things like, where? who? and don't be late] If he/she doesn't have a separate room [with siblings it is okay] even when he/she is above 14? If she/he doesn't have a door to their room?? Those things are breaking them apart. Friends might laugh to his/her back, they will call him/her with names. You might not think about it. But it happens. Any person deserves some privacy in their lives. This doesn't mean you should give him a separate room and never check what he is doing in there. No. You should check it but for a limit. Be a friend with him more than being Idi Amin type parent. [There is a guy well educated but having personality problems, trust me he doesn't even have a job for two years even with a second upper class Management degree in J'pura Uni.]

Question NO.5 and NO.6 comes together most of the times. Do you respect your child's opinion? or at least do you ask his/her opinion when you are taking a decision about his/her life? Do they have free will under your roofs? Though the law says every human born with free will does that really counts under your roofs? Do you always say what to do to him/her? He is will be a puppet someday. Someday when you are no longer to decide what he should do, he will be lost in the society not having a single clue what he should do. Because once you cut his/her free will that thing never can be restored. They will never recognize it. They will afraid to decide by their own. They will always need a push or they will always wait till someone tells them what they should do. Is that what you want for your child? Cut down his free thinking power and acting according to his/her own instinct. They will easy targets in society. Specially girls. So you need to give her/his free will. 

Question NO.7 if you are making a fuss about this, mainly two things can happen. one thing is he or she would be really afraid to get along with the opposite sex or would shy. Another thing would they will find a way to have connections with opposite sex friends somehow closing your eyes. I have seen many, and I don't think you are unaware of those stuffs. Specially if a boy is shy to be with girls then it will damage to his personality and on the other hand if a girl is trying to get along with boys closing your eyes that would be a real danger to her. The solution is not be prison them in a ivory tower, but let them be friends with the opposite sex for a limit under your supervision.

Question No.8 that is a very bad habit. They have their own problems and they need something or someone to talk about those. So if your child has a diary then leave it that way. That diary is not the way to know his/her secrets. Talking is the way. Respect your child. Show them they can talk to you about anything. Even about love problems. I am proud to say I have a mom who I can talk about anything. :)

Question No.9 if you are trying to fulfill your dreams then it is wrong. Your child is not one of your tools to be used that way. Maybe the dream you have can be really good, but if he doesn't like it then there is no use of it. Because he is one who is going to live with that. Not you. Don't make your child a pawn to see your dream come true. And specially don't make your child do something just because your colleague's child is doing that. Don't make your child see a dream which he doesn't want to see. That will ruin his/her whole life. Any man should do something they are fond of unless that thing will destroy them.

Question NO.10 if you are just a parent to them, it is time for you to change. Be a friend. A close friend who he/she can share anything. Don't get panicked when he/she shared a secret with you but be patient and give the right advice to them. Most of wrong things can be prevented from that. If your girl says a boy is interested in her, don't scold her like nothing. But make her understand what will happen if she got a boy friend when she is still at school. Share stories you know about people who had affairs and sort of messed up their whole school life. That will talk some sense to her more than scolding and punishments. 

Sometimes a child can be a puppet because of these things, sometimes a child can a gangster. YES! Even though you are not ready to accept that fact I have seen some who says they really hate their parents. I don't think you need that to happen to you and your child. 
If you love your child,
Guide him, don't drag him
Show him, don't push him
Respect him, don't humiliate him
Love him, don't tight him......

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Sunday, September 2, 2012

~God has another plan~

I opened my eyes
slowly, slowly...
I wished you'd be here
near me, holding my hand

Everything was so dark
and calm and quiet
Something is wrong
said my mind...

There was a light
yellow and bright
I'm no longer lying
I floated gently..

 I floated through an arch
to a meadow very bright
"Am I out this much soon?"
a question in my mind..

Looked everywhere for u
to see your bright smile
you weren't here, but
a beautiful world..

Something is not right
mumbling in my head
"where are you and my son?"
more stress in my mind

Nobody seems anywhere
"could someone hear me?"
It's beautiful world
but don't want to stay here

I looked back at
the arch which I entered
It was no longer there
only me and silent everywhere..

Slowly floated myself
around the meadow
felt this is the end
No going back there

Finally saw you and him
cuddled together in pain
"don't worry I'm fine"
I screamed but no-one seems hear

They took me my body, not me
"I'm still here" whispered to your ear
"Seems god has another plan,
Tell him I love, and will forever.."

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